Are You Wasting Your Time?

There are many times when we may not even realize it until it is too late that all we have been doing in life is wasting our time. Sometimes what makes us come to this realization is either a sickness, a disability, a loss of some sort and none of this is necessary for us to come to this realization.

Now, this question that I just asked on the title will have different answers for everyone. That’s because everyone’s definition of living life and enjoying life will be different. What I may find as enjoyment may be different for someone else. So for this reason, you can’t go to anyone else for an answer, you have to look within you.

Even though the answer to this question will be different for everyone, there are some basic things that I think are time wasters for everyone no matter how different we may all be for certain things. Time wasters would be being angry at others, being worried all the time, not working on the relationships that truly matter most, taking those you love for granted, focusing on things that are no longer in your present life or focusing on what could have been but isn’t, being angry with Life for the things that you don’t have in life or for what was taken away from you. All these things are what I call paralyzers because they do just that, they paralyze you. They paralyze you mentally, physically and emotionally. They don’t help you move forward and see all the goodness that you still have. They make you blind. They hinder you from enjoying life.

Being angry at someone else is not hurting the other person, it is hurting you. The other person may not even be aware of what you are feeling but you are and that can make you even more angry because it does hurt to know that you care while the other person doesn’t. Depending on what it is that made you angry, that anger may be easy to let go or not. Whatever it is that made you angry, know that by continuing to feel this way, the only person who are hurting is yourself. There are times when other people may not even mean to harm us and so this is another reason why it is not worth getting so angry. As my very good friend Dawn reminded me over and over, no one can make you feel a certain way unless you allow them.

Being worried all the time is just paralyzing in every aspect. It paralyzes you mentally because the worry that you feel can stop you from thinking of making the right decision. It paralyzes you physically because the worry can make you not want to take any action. We usually worry about something that hasn’t happened yet and this stops us from living the present moment. If you want to be able to look at your past and think of it with good thoughts and feelings, then you must enjoy this moment because this moment will be past. Besides, worry just attracts more of the things that you are worried about.

One of the things that matters so much in life is the relationships we have in our life. Not cultivating them is, to me, equivalent to not saving money and the reason for this is because whether you realize it or not, the relationships that you have with others are an investment. What you give to others is what you get back. Family is one thing we tend to take for granted and think about this, when you are in your down moments, it isn’t a job or strangers who will be there for you, it is your family and close friends so make time for those you love and love you.

I can tell you that focusing on what no longer was in my present paralyzed me for a bit and made me waste my time by not looking forward. That is what focusing on what could have been but isn’t, focusing on what you no longer have and what you feel Life has taken away from you do to you, it keeps you from looking forward. I know it can be challenging at times but it is a must to look forward to more goodness in life. Part of life is transitioning from one stage of life to the next and we must embrace this if we are to be happy.

So now I challenge you to think whether or not you are wasting your time. This simple question can transform the way your life is right now if there is any part of it that you are not happy with and can add more well-being to you.

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Don’t Bottle In Your Emotions Nor What You Are Thinking When Feeling Low

Feeling and showing vulnerability is something that perhaps many don’t feel comfortable with and perhaps many may feel like this is a weakness. Well, I think if one thinks this is a weakness, then it is implying that being human is being weak because as human beings we all have and will have moments of vulnerability. It is only natural. When feeling vulnerable, it is very important not to bottle in your emotions nor what you are thinking when feeling on the low side.

Bottling your emotions, rather than showing strength, can weaken you. How so? I don’t know about you but it feels like too much effort to keep all to myself what I am feeling when feeling low. As human beings, it is only natural to have your ups and downs. Even though I think part of living life to the fullest is choosing happiness, (because happiness is a choice), I think part of that happiness and well-being is embracing all emotions, even the not so good ones. I have said it before and I will say it again, emotions can be an indicator of what is going on inside you. It is a way to measure how your soul feels. Sharing with someone that you know you can trust and who is not judgmental of what you feel can be so liberating and healthy. Make sure, though, that it is someone that you know you can trust because I am one to believe that if you tell the wrong person, you can actually feel worse and that’s no good. So make sure it is someone who will truly understand you and be uplifting.

I think that bottling your emotions and any negative thoughts is like a volcano with lava bubbling up waiting to erupt. You are what you think and feel and there is only so much that you can bottle up when feeling sad or angry. It is important to release, in a healthy way, what you are feeling and share your thoughts with someone you know loves you and cares about you. Someone that truly loves you, when knowing you have some negative thoughts in your mind, would knock some sense into you.

I believe showing vulnerability is a sign of strength because it takes courage to expose yourself. With this said, there is no shame in feeling a bit in the low side, just don’t remain there for your well-being. Share with someone you love what is going on. If you need professional help, then get the help you need, and try to understand what it is that is causing you to feel this way. For your well-being it is crucial that you don’t keep your emotions bottled in if you feel they are eating you up inside. It is important for every other area of your life that you have a mental and emotional balance in life and you do this by keeping these areas of your life in check.