The Importance of Saying “No”

You probably wouldn’t think that this has much to do with your well-being, however, “no” should be a part of your vocabulary in order to increase your well-being and this is what I will be discussing in this week’s post.

There is a Spanish saying that goes “Quien mucho abarca, poco aprieta” which means that if you try to get your arms around too much, you won’t be able to squeeze. In other words, if you try to do so much, you will get none done. There is only so much that anyone can do and the more you want, not only do you have to take breaks and stop for a moment, you have to say “no” to some things that can come your way.

Stress should be reserve for real emergencies- when a family member is ill, when you are ill, when there is an accident, etc.- not for every day stuff of life. Stressing because you are taking up on so much will only lead to illness and to frustration. It will take you out of alignment and won’t help you think straight.

I’ve written this before and I’ll write it again, it’s great to have goals, it’s great to want so much out of life. However, you don’t ever want to take yourself to the point where you break down. That does no good to anyone.

Saying “no” is about setting priorities. In order to achieve much, you need to set priorities first and then once those tasks are completed, move on to the next task. It’s not that certain things are not important to you, it’s just that in order for you to be able to complete that other project successfully, you first must complete the one you have at hand. Also, you must know what would make the most difference now and work on that first. This is another way to get more done- knowing what would make the most difference in your life if that task was completed.

Saying “no” is about setting your own boundaries. You set boundaries for yourself and for others. Your well-being must be a priority, first and foremost, and so when you say “no” to certain things, you are avoiding getting yourself into things that at the end will just drive you mentally crazy because it’s too much to do and physically exhausted because having so much to do does wear the body down.

Make saying “no” a part of your vocabulary. This is about you taking care of yourself, not taking on too much stuff than you can possibly handle at the moment and setting boundaries. Others may have their opinions in regards to your “no” and that’s ok. At the end of the day, it’s how you feel that matters most and you never want to take yourself to the point of a breakdown.

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“Uplift Yourself”

Today as I’m sipping on my favorite brand of tea “Yogi tea”, I read the message that comes with the tea and it reads “Uplift others and uplift yourself”. The part that caught my attention was the “uplift yourself”. With so much that is going on in my life, it can be quite a challenge to uplift myself as I am sure that it is the same for others as well and so I thought of this importance after I read this.

There will be times in your life where others may not necessarily be there to uplift you and this is why it is very necessary to learn to uplift yourself. In the same way that you would encourage others, you need that same encouragement from yourself. “But how can I uplift myself when I have so much going on?” you may ask and what I can share is what I do on a daily basis to uplift myself.

I am aware that everyone’s belief may be different and I respect everyone’s belief and outlook in life so you can take the following advise in a way that suits you. I believe that prayer is one of the greatest ways to uplift yourself. There is something that I can not explain but that truly helps when you need encouragement.

Have faith or the belief that things will change and be better. That belief or faith helps you feel and think differently. It helps change your outlook on the situation. Without the belief or faith that things will be better, you will feel a heavy burden in you that just feels as if it’s dragging you down. This places weight on you that reflects everywhere you go.

Don’t forget to do things that make you happy. For everyone this will be different. For some it is reading, for others it is yoga, or perhaps going for a walk. It is crucial for you to do something that cheers you up because this helps you to relax. It is in a relaxed state that we can accomplish more and endure more.

Remember that you are loved. I think it is easy when one is going through so much or feeling sad or overwhelmed to think that they are lonely. Thinking in this manner just creates negative emotions within you that just doesn’t help. Remember that there are those who love you, who are influenced by you and who also depend on you. Knowing this will help you gain some strength since love is an empowering feeling.

These are just some of the many things that you can do to uplift yourself whenever you need encouragement. We sometimes tend to be so good at being there for others that we forget that we also need to be there for ourselves. This is part of taking care of yourself in order to ensure your well-being.

The Importance of Taking Breaks

Some may have probably realized that last week I didn’t post on my blog. That is because I was giving myself a break since I am also working on other projects. This little break that I took made me think about the importance of taking breaks and this is what I will be discussing in today’s post.

It’s great to have momentum. Momentum keeps things going, however, it seems like in today’s world we have become like the energizer bunny that just keeps going and going without stopping for a moment to reflect upon things and enjoy what we have at the present time. Being this way can make you numb in regards to your emotions and to yourself.

Taking breaks every now and then can help you reflect upon what you have accomplished and it can make you look within so that you can be in touch with yourself. It’s so important to be in touch with your emotions and with yourself because the more connected you are with yourself, the more authentically you can be and live. The problem with not being in touch with your emotions and yourself is that you become numb as to how you feel and you become less and less who you really are.

Taking breaks can allow you to re-energize yourself so that you can go back to what you were doing with more energy. When you just keep going and going, this can be very exhausting not just physically but also mentally and emotionally. Taking some time away from what you were doing can help you gain a much deeper appreciation for what you have and do. That distance away from something allows you to miss it and sometimes it’s good to miss certain things because it is in the missing it that you can appreciate it. When you are surrounded with the same thing over and over, you won’t be able to help but to take it for granted, this is why missing something can be healthy.

Taking breaks every now and then helps you to slow down and this helps your body to relax. When you are constantly on the go go go, this can stress the body and this activates the sympathetic system which is responsible for the fight-or-flight response. If this continues for long, this can cause serious damages to the body like for example, the liver produces more blood sugar, your heart beats faster and the blood pressure elevates, among other things that lead to chronic diseases. I’m pretty sure you don’t want any of this and so taking breaks every now and then can help your body to slow down.

It is my belief that taking breaks is not so much a luxury but a necessity. It helps with your mental and emotional sanity, it can help your body to slow down and it can help you reflect upon your life and where you are at the moment. Take some time every now and then to give yourself a break and remember the benefits of taking a break. This too can help you maintain balance in your well-being.

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It’s Ok and Important to Relax

We live nowadays in a “go, go, go” society and one that expects so much from us. In a world where so much is expected from us and where there is so much to do, it is very important and necessary to relax.

Yes, it’s ok to relax and it’s important to relax. It doesn’t make you a lazy person, don’t think you will get bored if you just relax. Relaxing gives your body a moment to recuperate, to gather strength, your mind has a moment to process all the information and messages that it receives during the day. Relaxing allows you to be present, mindful of what is going on around you and it helps center you which is so important in order for you to feel peace and at ease.

Being always on the go, go, go places stress on the body and having that kind of stress on the body on a daily basis, with time, leads to lifestyle diseases such as high blood pressure, heart disease and so on. Any spare moment that you can take to relax, even if it is five minutes, do so. Not doing this is doing such a disservice to your body. Your mind and body works very hard everyday so it deserves that break! Just like you would care for your child or a loved one, you need to care for your body and this is one way.

“What are some ways that I can relax?” you might ask. There are different ways, it’s just a matter of finding what works for you. If you feel the stress on a certain part of your body, stop for a moment and take five deep breathes. If nature relaxes you, whenever you can, take a moment to walk in the park or beach and if this isn’t possible, imagine and picture for about five minutes a place that brings you  joy. If you’re at home and can take a little nap, do so, but not for more than 30 minutes (I will discuss why at another time). For me, reading a good book relaxes me. Find whatever it is that works for you and apply it.

In this kind of society it is becoming crucial to relax. Our body is not an electrical machine and even machines break down from time to time. With this said, if you want to be more energetic, if you want to feel more positive, if you want to be more productive, RELAX! Your body and your mind deserves it.

A Little Slowing Down Is Necessary In Life

Here I am, in the city, sitting down in Dunking Donuts and sipping on my decaf tea at 4 pm while waiting to go to the pharmacy to pick up my dad’s medication. I have to wait an hour for my dad’s medication. An hour! “Gosh!”, anyone would think, “What can I do for an hour waiting for some medication?” My response, just sit back and drink some decaf tea. Yes, just sit and read a little. Just sit and watch people walk by while sipping on my tea.

Lots of times we just rush, rush, rush, always rushing to do the next thing that needs to get done. I know that’s what I used to do only to realize I was rushing for nothing, stressing myself, slowly making myself sick and not enjoying the moment. Whether you realize it or not, it is important for your mental, emotional and physical health to just slow down and take a  moment to just appreciate the moment and just relax. Take it slow. Always being in a rush actually activates the sympathetic system which is involved in the flight and fight response when we perceive danger and this is dangerous for our health on a constant, daily basis.

Slowing down allows you to take in the moment, thus, enjoying it. Slowing down relaxes the body allowing you to be calm, your mind to be clear and emotionally in balance. Isn’t balance something that we are constantly striving to have? Well, slowing down is part of the equation in order to achieve that balance. The next time you find yourself having to wait long in line, wait to get anything, take that as an opportunity to just relax, slow down and even still, to enjoy that very moment.

If you are the type who is always in a rush or Type A personality, this will take some time. Whatever it takes for you to reach that point of learning to slow down, give yourself that time. It will be so worth it and it is a small investment you are making towards your health and wellbeing. Wellbeing doesn’t come overnight so any small deposit you make will make a difference. This act of slowing down, you will slowly notice, will provide you with some inner peace, also necessary for our wellbeing.

Any moment you can take to slow down, take it. Trust me, it is NOT a waste of time but a small deposit to your health and wellbeing and towards living to the max.