If You’re a Leech, You’re In Great Need of Yourself

What an odd title. It’s probably not a title that you expect to read when it comes to your well-being but this situation of which I’m going to write about may be a situation that either you may be going through because perhaps you are the leech or you know someone who is like a leech to you or you know someone who is going through this.

First I would like to explain what a leech is if you don’t already know. A leech is a segmented worm that sucks blood. As you can perhaps tell from this description, a leech is someone who basically sucks the life out of you since blood can be considered the life of the body. Usually to consider someone a leech, this person is one who drains the energy of others, they may be in great need of attention, affection or love from others. This person may not necessarily mean to be a “leech” and suck the life out of others but they do so perhaps unknowingly.

How can you know when you are being a leech? You will know if you are sincere enough with yourself and know that you need other people’s approval in order to feel loved. You are constantly looking for the person almost in a smothering way. You will also know because either others will tell you that you are draining them or they will want to be away from you. Please understand that it is nobody’s responsibility to give you the love that you need. That is YOUR responsibility. You are the one responsible for creating a life for yourself, for loving yourself, for caring about yourself and for making yourself happy. Giving this responsibility to others is not fair for others nor for yourself plus it is a burden for others.

What can being a leech show you? This can help provide you with some insight as to how you are neglecting yourself. Self neglect does lead one to want to latch on to others and get from others what they are not giving to  themselves. If you notice this about yourself, stop yourself for a moment and give yourself some alone time. Don’t be afraid of your alone time. Some alone time can be great since it is during this time that you can get to know yourself better. Try to see what your soul is trying to communicate to you. You will be amazed at the areas of your life and of yourself that you have been ignoring.

If you have been a leech and have been annoying, know that many have been in your shoes and you can reverse that. You reverse that with some self-care. There is no other love like the one that you can have for yourself.

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It’s Only a Matter of Time…

It’s so easy to be impatient when you really want something. Trust me, I know, those close to me know that I can sometimes be so impatient about certain things. However, when we don’t seem to have that which we want so bad, we have to remind ourselves that it’s only a matter of time.

How can you get into that state of reminding yourself that it’s only a matter of time when what you want you want it now? Well, look at where you are now and where you were before. I’m pretty sure that although things pretty much may “look” the same, if you look closely, you have had changes along the way that perhaps were not so noticeable for you. This should tell you that life isn’t always the same and that things are continuously changing and will continue changing. Allow this to give you a sense of hope that things will get better with time. Another way to remind yourself that it’s only a matter of time for you to get what you want is to look for signs from the Universe that you are getting closer to the things you want. This can be that perhaps you met someone who has what you want or is where you want to be. It could be that the last person you dated has most of the qualities that you are looking for in a mate. It could be that you are surrounded by the environment that you desire to be a part of. Life is always giving you signs that what you want will happen and reminding you that it’s only a matter of time.

What does this phrase do to your well-being and how relevant it is to your everyday life? This one phrase, if you allow it, can transform your negative thinking and feeling to one of hope and faith. The feelings of hope and faith shift the way you think which will affect the way you behave. When you are in a state of desperateness, anger, sadness or hopelessness, these feelings don’t allow you to make the right choices which then affects your well-being in negative ways. You choose the wrong person because you think that someone is better than no one or because you don’t think you will find your One. You jump into a decision because you can’t wait for the right thing to arrive. You break relationships that may be beneficial to you because you can’t seem to see things from a positive light and on and on the list goes.

Anytime you feel like you’re about to lose hope because that thing that you want hasn’t arrived yet, remember, it’s only a matter of time. That love that you are waiting for still you don’t see any signs of him/her coming, it’s only a matter of time. That weight that you are trying to lose doesn’t seem to want to come off of you, it’s only a matter of time. No matter what….it’s only a matter of time.

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Beware of Your Needs

Needs are needs and they are to be acknowledged and respected. We all have a need to be loved, to be needed, to feel connected and a part of something, etc and these are all natural needs. Nothing wrong with them, except when we allow our needs to take over and rule our way of thinking, feeling and behaving in ways that compromise our well-being.

This is why I wrote for the title of this post “beware of your needs” because no matter what need it is, that need, if it’s not in check, can take over you and turn you into a person that you are not otherwise. Balance in everything is important and it also important when it comes to your needs.

I think one of the best ways to balance out your needs is by putting as a priority your sense of peace and well-being. When you make your sense of peace and well-being a priority, no matter how much you may want something, you will judge whether it is worth having what you need based on how it makes you feel and whether or not it adds to your life. A perfect example I can think of is when your need is to be in a romantic relationship. That is a normal need to have but when your priority is your sense of peace and well-being, when someone that may seem like a good candidate comes along, you will be a better judge of whether or not this person is worth having in your life because you are not as hungry for that need since something else has a bigger priority. The problem with needs is not the need itself but the intensity of that need. Feeling hungry is normal but when you are starving, even a salty meal tastes yummy although it is not good for you. This is why I suggest that when having a need, offset it by making something else that truly is important like your peace and well-being a priority so you are not as hungry and settle for something unhealthy for you. Just like you would have a snack in between breakfast and lunch so that by the time it is lunchtime you are not starving, there are other ways that you can better handle that need you have and something else needs to be a priority for you to control the intensity of that need. “How can the whole snacking in between meals be compared to needing a romantic relationship?” you may ask and the answer to this is that I think the secret to not being so hungry for a need is to have other things going on that somewhat satisfies that need that you have. For example, cultivating other healthy relationships such as friendships and family can help when it comes to a longing you may have.

There is nothing worse for your sense of well-being than losing your center and balance in life. When you do lose these things, you become someone you are not, you make choices that are not right for you, you settle for situations that are not healthy for you so in essence, you are compromising your well-being. Nothing is worth you compromising your well-being, not even a need.

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