The Grass Is Never Greener On the Other Side

I think as human beings it’s only normal to think that perhaps others have it better than us, that perhaps we can find someone better than the one we are currently seeing, etc. This kind of thinking although it may be natural to feel, it can prevent you from seeing all the good that is front of you. It is because of this that I would like to encourage you to see that the grass is never greener on the other side.

Don’t wait until something is lost for you to start valuing it. Remember that you currently have things that others would like to have. That may be the job that you have someone else may want. That can also be the relationship that you are currently in someone else would like to have a relationship like yours. Perhaps even a physical quality of yours someone else may want to have. Whatever it is, remember that you have something that someone else may want.

Also, your grass is as green as you make it. Perhaps other people’s grass looks greener because they are taking care of their own grass. So with this said, start taking care of what you currently have. Whatever it is that you see others have, why don’t you try your best to have that as well but just in a way that it’s unique to you. Start taking the steps necessary so that you can have the things that you want, the life that you want, the relationships that you want, the job that you want, etc.

I would like to encourage you to start seeing the wonderful things that you have in your life. Ask yourself: What can I be grateful for today? What do I have that is just great? What are some things about myself that are amazing? How can I improve the relationship I’m currently in? What are the aspects of this relationship that I love? What are some things that make my job great?

Asking yourself these questions will get your brain thinking and moving toward a more positive direction. Remember that your grass will be as green as you make it to be. Do your best to tend to your grass. Take care of it in every season so that it can look its best. Remember that in every aspect of your life, what you put in is what you get out. If you want your life to be as great as you want it to be, that is up to you to do the work that it takes. You have the power to make your grass as green as you want it to be and remember that just because other people’s grass is very green, doesn’t mean that it is greater and better than yours.

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There Is Value In the Missing

Perhaps many don’t want to miss things. We don’t want to really miss the one we love, we long for certain experiences or places, we long for certain feelings. However, believe it or not, there is is value in the missing and this is what today’s post is about and as you keep reading, you will notice how this ties to your well-being.

Missing something or someone provides important elements to your well-being, one of them being appreciation. We tend to appreciate what we don’t have or what we lack. This is why it is great to miss. Think about this for a moment, if you have the person that you love with you 24/7, overtime you end up taking that person for granted. This is why it is important to give each other space to miss each other because you will end up appreciating that person more.

Missing something or someone helps you see the value in certain things in your life. The reason for this is because what missing helps create is distance and it is that distance that helps you see things from another perspective. For instance, going to your job all the time without any time off can make you feel fed up with your job. However, you give yourself some distance away from it and you can appreciate all that your job provides for you that goes beyond the monetary and this is just one example of many.

Missing something or someone helps create balance and this is because as an Italian saying goes “too much is the same as too little”. It is this missing factor that helps balance the “too much” part. You need that distance apart from everything and everyone so that you can appreciate. You need to know how it feels like not to have that thing or person for a while for you to be grateful and happy once that thing or person comes back.

Well-being is about balance, appreciation, living fully and happiness. Missing something or someone seems to add these very things that we need by providing us with that space and distance that we need in order for us to truly appreciate what we have and have a different, healthy perspective in life.

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Your Job IS Important

Many times we may feel like the job that we do is not important perhaps because we just clean bathrooms, perhaps it’s a job as a cashier, etc. Whatever it is that you do, even if you view it as being insignificant, know that your job indeed IS important. You don’t have to be a doctor, a lawyer or have a Ph.D. or a Masters degree for your job to matter. Every role that you play is important because what you do does impact other people, no matter how small that role may be.

I find that when we start seeing how important our job is because of the impact we have on others, we not only perform our jobs better, we also see ourselves in a different light. We see ourselves in a more positive way. We no longer take what we do for granted. We no longer allow how others view us or treat us affect us. We no longer let the job that we have define us. Your job may reflect what you know or probably not but when you realize how important your job is, you will feel a sense of pride that others who come in contact with you will perceive. This, in return, will make people respect you because think about it. When you see someone who is in a grouchy mood while performing their job, it’s not very appealing to watch, isn’t it? Yet, it’s very attractive to see someone who enjoys what they do.

When we perceive that what we do doesn’t have any importance whatsoever, this affects our performance at work, it affects our self-concept and self-esteem (two different things that I will explain on another post), we tend to take work problems home, and overall it just affects our well-being. I do believe in the power of our perception and in reality, what we do affects others. If, for example, you work in a nursing home, the care you give to others has an impact on the patient’s health, not just physically but mentally and emotionally as well. As a nurse you have the power to make someone’s day,especially when feeling physically and emotionally vulnerable because anyone who is sick and goes to the doctor feels vulnerable too. If you are a gate agent, you may just be handing seat assignments, you may think, but you are doing much more. You are also part of the passenger’s travel experience. You can be a customer at a store, you don’t know what the person next to you is going through in their life and your attitude can brighten their day or you can just add more frustration to their day. All this means is that we all matter.

Now, if you truly dislike your job, you truly can’t stand it and feel it’s affecting your well-being, I suggest that you listen to how you are feeling and start looking for your ideal job. But don’t let the fact that you may feel your job is insignificant make you feel like your job isn’t important because that’s so far from the truth. Every job matters. What you do matters and what you have to offer is important. Other people depend on what you do. You can make someone’s day with what you do.

I challenge you to view and believe that the job that you perform is important and I am one to say to not worry about what others may think. Because we spend so much time at work, the way we feel about our work is important and it does have an impact on our well-being. Never underestimate what you do!