How to Fill the Inner Void

Today I would like to write about something that seems to be real for some and this kind of struggle is very real. The struggle that I am referring to is the one of an inner void.

Since well-being starts with you, this means that it starts with being whole. Being whole by default means that there is no void. Now, one thing that I would like to clarify is that it is perfectly normal to have certain needs that are just innate because we are human beings. These needs that I am referring to are- the need to feel needed, to be accepted, to be loved and the need for companionship. These needs are built within us because as human beings we are emotional and social beings. So having these needs does not mean that you are not whole.

However, when these needs are heightened to the point where you are willing to compromise your well-being to have these needs met, this is when there is a void that needs to be filled. I think many confuse having needs with having a void when there is a fine line between the two and that line is when those needs become so strong to the point that you are willing to compromise your well-being.

With all this said, how can one fill an inner void? Perhaps for some, they may not like what I’m about to write because maybe some are searching for immediate results to what they are currently feeling but I can guarantee you that greater satisfaction comes from going to the root of things. So the first place to start is by recognizing your inner value. It is important that you see and cherish your own inner value because when you see how valuable you are as a person, you will expect others to treat you like so. You start seeing your value by recognizing the attributes that you possess that make you an amazing person. It doesn’t matter if others have those same attributes, believe and know that there is something unique about you that no one else has.

Think about the things that bring you joy and start doing those things often. The more things you do that you enjoy, the better you will feel about yourself because you are nurturing your true essence which is your soul. This is one part of us that some tend to neglect and doing so can be detrimental overtime. Give yourself the time to feed your soul with things that makes it happy.

Surround yourself by people who appreciate you for who you are. Choose healthy relationships. Whether we realize it or not, the people that we surround ourselves by do have an influence on our self-concept and self-esteem. Choose people who have a healthy self-esteem, who love themselves, who are happy with their life and who are willing to do the inner work. I will discuss on another blog why it is important to choose people who are willing to do the inner work.

The last thing I will recommend that you do is to take the time to get to know who you are. There is tremendous power in knowing who you really are. When you have a deep understanding of who you are, you know what your needs are in every area of your life. When you have a deep understanding of who you are, you are more accepting of who you are and the choices that you make regardless of whether others are accepting of you or not. This understanding allows you to be in alignment which leads to greater well-being.

I am not going to lie to you that filling a void takes effort but that is effort that is worth it. If you want to fill that void completely and feel great on a consistent basis, you have to have that deep understanding and appreciate of yourself. Your relationship with yourself is the foundation in which everything is built upon. When you feel void, you are not going to have much to offer to others. You will be coming from a place of neediness and anxiety and others will sense that because that is what you will be emanating.

I would like to encourage you to start looking at the traits that make you an amazing person. Start doing the things that make you very happy. Surround yourself by people who have a healthy self-esteem and who love their life. Have a great relationship with yourself. The moment you start filling yourself up, you won’t be heightening the natural needs that is only normal to have.

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How To Deal With That Sense of Heaviness That You May Be Feeling Inside You

I think talking about how to be positive and how to eat right when it comes to well-being isn’t enough to cover the different aspects to our well-being. I think it is so important to talk about the aspects that can compromise our well-being and one of the many things that can compromise our well-being is that feeling of heaviness that we may feel. How do we get over that? How do we deal with that? How can we deal with moments when our mind is clouded, when we can’t seem to clear our mind? I will do my best in this post to offer some suggestions on how to deal with heaviness in our heart and mind.

First off, I would say that you are entitled, let me write this again, ENTITLED, yes in capital letters, to feel all range of emotions because you are only human. You are entitled to your off days, you are entitled to your down days, you are entitled. Life, I don’t think, is meant to be a smooth road, however, your perspective on things shapes how bumpy your ride will be. Although life can be complex, at the end of the day, your view on things can shape how complicated things can be. Know that there is nothing wrong with you feeling down and having off moments. It is only a part of life. Knowing that you are entitled to this will help you not feel bad about what you are feeling and it will help you to not put resistance on your emotions. I think that putting resistance on your emotions just makes matters within you worse. It makes it harder to get over what you are feeling, it makes it difficult for you to move on and you are stopping yourself from learning any lessons that you are meant to learn from what you are feeling and going through.

Now, I want to clarify that although you are entitled to your off and down days, don’t stay in that emotion. It is not healthy for you to remain in a down state for too long. Look at this as an injustice that you are doing to your body when you linger in emotions that can drain your energy. Every negative emotion is harmful on a long-term basis for your body. You don’t want to put that amount of stress on your body. Your body needs loving all the time and part of that love that you provide to your body is not lingering too long on negative emotions. Don’t deny those emotions, I’m not saying not to deny them. Feel those emotions, recognize them, embrace them, learn from them and do your best not to dwell on those emotions.

“How do I not dwell on those negative thoughts or emotions when they are so strong?” you might ask. Seriously analyze what it is that causes you to feel this heaviness. I am big on breaking things apart in my mind.  Breaking things apart in your mind will help you look at your situation with a different eye. Ask yourself the following questions: Is it worth it for you to feel this way? Can you try to “fix” the situation so it doesn’t cause you this much pain? What can you learn from this situation?. There are so many reasons that can cause one to feel heaviness that in this single post it is challenging to cover all that one can do to overcome this feeling. Because every situation is unique and different, your approach to the situation will be different. The kind of questions you ask will be different.

I would suggest journaling, which is writing down what you are feeling and thinking. There is something so powerful about writing down what you have in your mind because it is no longer in your mind. It helps you gain clarity into your thoughts and emotions. Having clarity and an understanding of why you are feeling what you are feeling will empower you because you will know more about yourself. The more you know about yourself, you will be able to make better choices for yourself. You will treat yourself differently because of the awareness that you have of who you are.

Don’t forget to do things that you enjoy. There is something so powerful for our well-being when we do things that brings joy to us. Having hobbies and doing things that you like helps distract you from things that can be going on that puts you down, helps build your self-esteem, and you learn more about yourself. That’s part of our journey in life, getting to know ourselves more.

Surround yourself by people who love and care about you. Knowing that you are loved and accepted for who you are is just so important to your emotional and mental well-being. It is these people who can help you overcome your difficult times.

Remember too that everything passes. This hard time that you are going through will pass. It is so important to remember this when going through tough times that these moments don’t last forever. This thought will help you look forward to beautiful times that are ahead.

Living with purpose and to the max may not always be easy but knowing that part of life is knowing how to deal with hard times is very important. It is these hard times that will help you appreciate all the beautiful times that are yet to come. Remember, you can’t know what true happiness is until you know what sadness and hardship is.