No Matter What You Do Or Say, Always Come From A Place Of Love

There will be times in life where you will be disappointed, sad and angry. That is normal because you are a human being and as a human being, you will feel all kinds of emotions. The one thing I think is very important and it’s one lesson I learned in these past weeks is that no matter what you do or say, always come from a place of love.

When I say “always come from a place of love”, I’m not saying that you neglect whatever anger, sadness or disappointment you are feeling, this is not what I mean since it is important to acknowledge these feelings. What this really means is that when you respond to a situation, wait until you are cooled off and instead of coming from a place of anger or sadness, come from a place of peace. It’s very easy to react to what is going on and what you are feeling but it is very important to just step back for a moment and think about what is going on and what you are feeling. I have to admit that there will be times where it will feel hard to do this but when you are coming from a place of love, the person that is benefiting from this is YOU. It’s important at the end of the day to be happy with the way you handled a situation and that many times means taking the high road for as difficult that this may be.

For as difficult as it may be for you to smile, for whatever the reason may be that is keeping you from feeling happy, still find it within you to smile. Indeed when you smile the world does smile right back at you. For as difficult as it may feel to be nice when you are upset, still manage to find it within you to be nice to others. Remember, once again, the person that benefits from this is YOU. For as angry as someone may have made you, step back and wait until you cool off to then approach the person. If you are upset and disappointed with yourself, even with yourself come from a place of love and have compassion for what you did. Have an understanding that what you did doesn’t make you a bad person. Treat yourself with love and kindness the way you would for your best friend.

Always coming from a place of love is one very important and valuable lesson that you can learn and apply to your life in order to grow in your overall well-being. It is love what truly nurtures our soul and it’s essential to make it a goal to always add more love into your life.

Delight Yourself In Your Imperfections

This is a big one for me, especially when in comes to languages since I am also passionate about languages and those who know me knows how I tend to be a perfectionist with that. What makes me write this post today is that I just did a show since I am now on blogtalkradio (you can check out the shows at and today I was being a bit critical of myself as I was listening to myself. I afterwards said to myself “Oh well, I’m going to be fine with today’s show and that’s that”. And then I thought about delighting myself in my imperfections.

So what if you did this wrong?! So what if you made this mistake?! So what if it didn’t come out perfect?! SO WHAT?! I don’t know about you but when I put that much pressure on myself, I make MORE mistakes. I think this is the kind of pressure that none of us should put on ourselves. This kind of pressure can be a blow to your self-esteem if you feel you didn’t do something to your standard. There are times when it is just best to relax and know that you did the best you could with what you had. I know that this can be challenging if you are a perfectionist, I totally know because I can be that way, but this is just not healthy to your overall well-being. You put too much pressure on yourself, you tend to be more critical of yourself, if you are not careful, you even find yourself needing other people’s approval if you don’t approve of yourself and this becomes a snowball of things that just ends up taking things downhill.

If you made a fool out of yourself, so what?! I just made a fool out of myself last week by getting very angry at a situation that I should have not allowed myself to get that way, and what made it worse for me is that I know that person didn’t mean for me to feel that way and I got that angry but I had valid reasons, according to me at least. When you find yourself in this situation, rather than beat yourself up over it, ask yourself what did you LEARN from that experience. That’s the key. Learn from your mistakes, try to see how perfect you are with all your imperfections.

Part of well-being is being accepting of who you are despite all the mistakes you made, despite your past, despite your imperfections. It is important to find the joy in your imperfections because this will add more well-being to your life because you are not focusing on the negative, rather you are focusing on the positive. With this said, the next time you make a mistake or find something about yourself that you don’t like, delight yourself in that imperfection.

The World Indeed Is a School Where The People You Meet And Your Experiences Are Your Teachers

The older I’m getting, the more I realize that even after graduating from college, we never stop being students. We are forever growing and learning from this school called Life. There are still so many lessons that we must learn that we can only learn through either other people or our experiences and unless we master and learn those lessons, we’ll just keep repeating that class, over and over again until we learn.

How many of you have been through the same pain, over and over again? I know I have and for certain things, still do. Have you ever wondered why you keep going through the same thing over and over again just with different people? When faced with situations like these, ask yourself, what is the lesson behind what is happening? Is there something that you are meant to be learning that you are missing? In what way can you grow and become a better person because of this experience or person? If this person caused (or what you perceived that this person caused you) a very emotional response in you, the lesson is even more important and profound. It is actually more essential for you to find out what this lesson is so that you can move on and be a better version of yourself.

I’m truly a believer that if you allow yourself, every person and experience can mold you and shape you into a better version of you the way that you are meant to be. No experience needs to knock you down to the point of not being able to get up. On the contrary, the experiences that provoke the highest and strongest emotions for you can be what provides a turning point in your life towards a better direction.

Indeed the world is a school where everyone you meet and your experiences are your teachers and it is best for your overall well-being that you become open to those lessons and willing to being a better version of yourself.

“Let Go Of What You Are Holding On To So You Can Make Room For What I truly Have For You”

Lately I have been feeling down over a situation I should have never allowed myself to be in. I was so angry at myself for making myself vulnerable unto a guy that didn’t even feel the same way I felt. I guess I was more angry at myself if anything. The point is I was hanging on to something that is not serving me and putting my energy where I didn’t need to place it. With this feeling I went to sleep and last night I had the strangest dream. It was me texting that guy and receiving a response I didn’t want to hear. Right as I’m reading the message, I heard a voice telling me “Let go of what doesn’t serve you! What may have felt good before may not necessarily feel good now and that’s when you have to let go! It doesn’t serve you anymore! Let go of what you are holding on to so that you can make room for what I truly have for you!”. That voice was so firm and the dream felt so real that I woke up. I had to look at my phone and I saw the time. It was 2: 45 am.

I woke up thinking “how true is that last statement”. I don’t know if it was God talking to me or my inner guide but how many of us hold on to things that once felt good or right but no longer serves us?! How many of us make the mistake of holding on to a relationship, a person, a situation, anything either because of fear or anger?! The sad part about this is that by doing this, WE stop ourselves from receiving the goods that are meant for us. By doing this, we are not making space for better things to come.

If you want anything in life but are holding on to something that no longer serves you, let it go! Truly, let go of that relationship that isn’t working, let go of that person that doesn’t reciprocate what you feel, let go of any resentment or anger you feel, let go of any jealousy or envy! Just let it go! By letting it go, the person you are setting free is yourself! Be holding on to things, there is no way you can make room for the new and better. It’s like a house, in order for you to make room for new things, you have to let go of the junk.

Letting go of what doesn’t serve you is so necessary for your well-being. Life is not meant to be a struggle and when something feels like a struggle, you truly need to reevaluate what is going on. The act of letting go may be painful at first but in the long run it is so freeing.

One Main Ingredient To Having The Things You Want In Life

I have been analyzing my life and observing other people’s lives and questioning why is it that other people have certain things while others who deeply desire the same thing don’t have those things they want. Is it that certain people are more deserving of it than others? Could it be that certain people are destined for certain things while others are not? I refuse to believe that something that you deeply desire is not meant for you because I believe if it was placed in your heart it’s because God or the Universe or whatever your higher being is placed it there for you and it’s already yours.

I have been reading lately on how to find your soulmate because it’s a topic that interests me at the moment and one of the things that many authors say is that you have to set the intention. Set the intention? Now this caught my eye and I found myself pondering on this statement and I came to the conclusion that this not only applies to finding your soulmate, this also applies to everything else as well.

An example of setting the intention to find your soulmate is by declaring that you will meet your soulmate and making room in your life for love. You act as if you already have that soulmate in your life. For example, you buy a bed that two people can sleep on. I’ve noticed that when men are ready to settle down and marry, they are already buying a home or at least saving up to buy a home in order to have something to offer their future wife. In their mind they already have that wife they are searching for.

If losing weight is your goal, for example, you are going to first set the intention and imagine the body you want. You start to live and eat the way someone with that body would. You will have the discipline that it takes to reach your goal. It’s not enough wanting that body, you have to do what it takes. You set the intention.

If starting a business is your goal, the wanting to start a business is easy but it is not enough. Who doesn’t want to have their own business?! You have to first set the intention! You do that by knowing that it takes work and doing the work that it takes. You already have your business in mind and you take the steps necessary in order to make what you have in your mind come true.

Awww, setting the intention. I couldn’t help but realize how true this is for love but also for everything else in life. Unless you set that intention and get right to it, you won’t accomplish anything.

What does setting the intention have to do with well-being? It has all to do with well-being because a very important aspect to your well-being is how you feel about your life and feeling a sense of achievement that you have accomplished things in life.  Who doesn’t want to enjoy good health? Who doesn’t want to grow financially? Who doesn’t want to be all that they are meant to be?! However, to be able to feel satisfied in all areas of your life, you have to set the intention for what you want in life. You have to set the intention for love, you have to set the intention that you will eat right and exercise, you have to set the intention to get your finances straight, etc.

For your well-being, anything that you set out to do, first start by setting the intention, be clear about what you want and you will be surprised at the changes you might start seeing in your life.


Pay Attention to Your Words

We talk so much during the day. More than we can even imagine. Many times we are not even aware of how much we talk and the impact that our words have in our life. We take very lightly our words and phrases to others and to ourselves that we don’t even stop to ask ourselves how our words are impacting our emotional, mental and physical well-being. Have you ever noticed how you felt after having a chat with someone who only had negative things to say? Most likely you felt that person drained all of your energy. That is the power that your words have.

Your words have the power to create and transform your life. Your words have the power to destroy a relationship or a business contract that you may have. In the same manner, your words have the power to heal your soul, a relationship, make a client want to do business with you, etc. Your words also have the power to create a life full of positivism, health, happiness and more love.

Seeing all that words can do for you, I would suggest to increase a positive vocabulary everyday. Instead of saying “What an ugly day”, say “Even though today may not look so nice outside, today will be a beautiful day”. Instead of criticizing someone in a negative way, try to see the positive side of that person. Instead of talking about illnesses and pain, talk about abundance and health. Everyday make an effort to talk about beautiful things and you will see how your life will transform itself. It is the small things that can take you to a point where you just live to the max.

For Your Well-being, Don’t Place Yourself In Situations Where You Will Be Hurt

Many times I have placed myself in situations where I don’t think I meant to hurt myself but I did. I had shed many tears unnecessarily, I have been disappointed by others many times and all this despite all the evidence staring at me in my face that I should get out of the situation in which I got myself in. I think most of us can familiarize with this feeling and situation and I can only tell you from personal experience that for your well-being, don’t place yourself in situations where you will be hurt!

But why do we place ourselves in hurtful situations? How can we avoid this to begin with? First off, as human beings we all have needs. Need to be loved, need for attention, need for connection, need to feel needed, need for that feeling of importance. Because of these basic needs we can find ourselves in situations that had it not been because of these needs, we would not have placed ourselves in those situations to begin with. This is the reason why it is so important to understand yourself, oh how powerful it is to understand yourself, and what your needs are. This simple understanding can uncover a lot of what we have in our subconscious and can reveal to us what holds us back from the life we truly long. So start by understanding what your needs and wants are.

Love yourself! Truly, when you love yourself, you won’t allow anyone to hurt you or treat you any less than you deserve. You won’t even settle for situations that you don’t deserve, i.e. get involved with someone who is unavailable, among other stuff. When you love yourself, you understand your worth as a person or woman/man and so you will only accept situations or people that are worthy of you.

When you find yourself already in a situation where you can see that you are heading towards the “hurt” road, stop for a second. Ask yourself why you are driving down that road. If you need outside feedback, ask someone you love and trust what they think about the situation. You will be surprised how much you can open your eyes with some outside perspective about the situation. Truly dig inside you to understand what leads you to drive down this hurtful road.

Ask yourself, “if you can be in any situation or have anything in life, what would it be?” For example, if what you are looking for is true love and all you keep attracting are unavailable men or women, really ask yourself what do you want. Do you really want to be in a situation where you know you won’t be heading where you want to go? If you are trying to go to California, I’m pretty sure you won’t catch a plane going to Montana, would you? So ask yourself why you are doing this same exact thing in other situations in your life. This will help you think more about where you want to be and will help get your antennas working properly to really be on the look out for what you truly want and deserve.

This is just some of the many things that you can do in order to understand yourself more, get more of what you want in life and get what you truly deserve. You DESERVE more out of life. You don’t have to be content with situations that are somewhat nice or just plain not healthy.

Cultivate a Healthy Relationship With Yourself

The first relationship that needs to be right, the first person that needs to love you, the first relationship that needs to be healthy is your relationship with yourself. It is this relationship that will form the basis of all your other relationships. I can tell you from personal experience that when your relationship with yourself isn’t a healthy one, it will be very difficult to have a healthy relationship with others.

How is it that this relationship with yourself, when it is not a healthy one, can affect the quality of all the other relationships that you have? When you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself, what you accept from others are crumbs. When I say “crumbs”, I mean you accept put downs, abuse, and abuse doesn’t have to be physical in order for it to be abuse. Abuse can be verbal, mental or/and emotional. You allow others to treat you however way they want even if it means that they disrespect you. When you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself, your “healthy/unhealthy relationship antennas” don’t work properly. In other words, because you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself, you can’t even distinguish the difference between a relationship that is healthy for you versus one that isn’t healthy for you. Any relationship will due and you are more willing to tolerate disrespect because you “think” that despite their disrespect, they still care about you when they really don’t. When you, on the other hand, have a healthy relationship with yourself, one where you accept and love yourself for who you truly are, one where you respect yourself , you expect the same from others and when you are treated with anything less than you deserve, you quickly pick up on this and don’t tolerate it. It’s as if your “unhealthy relationship antenna” goes off and you know you need to move on.

How do you start cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself? I would say start by giving yourself some quiet time. This is time that you give to yourself and it gives you the opportunity to listen to what your soul wants. This is time to reflect on who you truly are. The next thing I would suggest is to start being around those who truly love you and believe in you, even more than you believe in yourself. This is going to help you understand what a true healthy relationship is. I think deep down we do know what a healthy relationship is but when we don’t first have a healthy relationship with ourselves, we ignore or can’t really see that a relationship is unhealthy. However, we can feel that that relationship is hurting us. I also recommend to start doing things that you love. There is something so empowering about doing things that we love. It provides peace, happiness, distraction, an opportunity to learn something about ourselves and we can even grow in self-esteem. In cases where you feel you can’t cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself, I suggest seeing a therapist or a psychologist, someone who is trained to help people overcome these life challenges. This doesn’t make you weak, if anything, this indicates strength because it takes strength to admit that you need professional help to overcome any challenges you are facing.

I can go on and on about how to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself because this is crucial to your overall wellbeing. Starting now, do your best to start having a healthy relationship with yourself. You will feel and see the benefits spill all over every area of your life.

Are You In A Toxic Relationship? This Can Be One Factor Hurting Your Wellbeing

Even though I am big on eating healthy and exercising, these are not the only things that contribute to our overall wellbeing. Yes, eating right and exercising are part of what makes us balanced in life, however, there are other factors that one must also consider when looking into their wellbeing. One of them is looking at the relationships that you have and when I say relationships, I’m not only referring to the romantic relationships, I mean all relationships, including family members and friends.

If you are in a toxic relationship, my suggestion is to reevaluate that relationship and consider if it is worth having that person in your life. How do you know whether or not a relationship is toxic for you? You need to notice how that person makes you feel as a human being. Ask yourself these questions when you are questioning whether or not you are in a toxic relationship: Does this person belittle you? Do you feel safe with this person? (When I say safe, I’m not necessarily referring to feeling physically safe. I mean if you feel safe being who you are and if you can express your emotions with that person without feeling that you will be reprimanded). Does this person make you feel good about who you are? These are just some of the questions to consider whenever you are in a relationship with anyone.

How does our relationships with others affect our wellbeing? By nature we are social beings. We all have basic needs that goes beyond the need for food and shelter. We have a need for love and to be needed. When these needs are not met, they can create havoc on our self-concept and self-esteem which trickles down to other aspects of our lives affecting our wellbeing. When we don’t feel loved or needed, we may not feel worthy so we are most likely to engage in things that are harmful to us. Things that are harmful for us can go from the very extreme such as using drugs or cutting, to the things that may not seem to be extreme but are just as harmful like overeating or smoking too much. This is why I advocate paying attention to the things that you do and why you are doing it. Understanding the reason why you do the things that you do will provide great insight about your mental, emotional and spiritual wellbeing.

One of the keys to wellbeing is being mindful at all times. Being mindful of what you eat, being mindful of how things make you feel and this includes being mindful of the relationships you have in your life. Just like eating and exercise affects every aspect of your body, so do the relationships that you have affect every aspect of your body and life. When we are in a toxic relationship where we are constantly fed negative messages of ourselves, we start to break down in every way. We don’t necessarily realize it at first but the way we view ourselves starts to change and not for good. This then affects our self-esteem. When our self-esteem is affected in a negative way, this affects everything in our life from our eating habits to other relationships that we have. I know that when I don’t feel good, I crave foods that are not necessarily healthy for me.

Now, like always, I would like to make some clarifications. A good friend or family member who loves you may tell you something that may “hurt” you but it hurts because they are telling you the truth that you may not necessarily want to hear. This does NOT constitute a toxic relationship. A toxic relationship is a relationship that is obviously bad for your wellbeing because it is not contributing to your life in a positive way. If you are truly honest with yourself as to how your relationships affect you, you will know which ones are toxic. The way to truly know is by listening to how someone makes you feel and to your gut instinct. Only you truly know and it is up to you to decide what to do with that relationship. However, I believe that a toxic relationship has no place in our lives.

Make it a habit to cultivate those positive relationships that you have and do away with any relationship that isn’t contributing to your growth and wellbeing. Life is too great to be around people who just makes us feel bad.