The Things That Held You Back

Some people may look back and realize that there were several things that held them back. Perhaps those things were the people around them, perhaps their environment, their childhood, their limiting beliefs, etc. and for some, the very thought of these things holding them back keeps holding them back.

The one thing you can never recuperate is time. Once time is gone, it’s gone. However, you still have more time ahead of you. The longer you keep looking back at the things that held you back, the more held back you will be. The things that once held you back don’t need to continue holding you back.

If you are held back for whatever reason, I want you to seriously consider the fact that perhaps it is you who is holding you back. Why do I dare you to consider this? Because the reality is that you can NOT control what others do. You can NOT control how others think. NO ONE has power over you. NO ONE can define you. NO ONE, unless you grant them permission, can do anything in your life.

I want to briefly discuss about childhood and this is one that is difficult to talk about since I know for some there were probably serious childhood issues. Once you become an adult, YOU have the choice as to whether or not you are going to continue to allow what happened to you to affect you. If you realize that the issues are too deep that you can’t handle them alone, then go seek a therapist or a psychologist. Get the help you need but don’t continue to allow your past to affect you in negative ways.

I want to briefly discuss limiting beliefs. It is a must to find the source of the limiting beliefs. You may be surprised to learn that the limiting belief you may have is someone else’s beliefs and you just internalized it as your own belief. It is important to challenge your beliefs if you are to grow into the person that you are meant to be.

I want to briefly discuss your environment. You don’t have to be your environment. If your environment isn’t congruent with the person that you are, that doesn’t mean that who you really are is wrong. Just like not all trees can grow in the same environment, we all can’t grow in the same environment. Know that you are much more than your environment if your environment is not a reflection of you. Also know that just because you are not like your environment, that doesn’t make you wrong. That just means that you are you and that’s it. There is nothing wrong with that.

The last thing I want to briefly discuss is people. What people think or say about you is none of your business. Your business is YOU and that’s it. Once again, you can’t control what other people do. You can’t control how other people think. People can only hold you back if you allow them to hold you back. Also people’s complexes and criticisms are non of your business. What other people decide to do with their life you can not control. The only person you can control is yourself so start to control yourself so that you can have the life that you want.

It is a must to control your thoughts, your emotions, your decisions, your actions and what you allow in your life. Remember that nothing needs to hold you back unless you ALLOW it to hold you back. This is the key word- allow. Remember that you are the only one who can allow things to hold you back.

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¿Qué tanta hambre usted tiene?

El hambre…..es algo que nosotros tratamos de quitar porque la verdad es que el hambre puede ser incomodo. No, no me refiero al hambre físico. Me refiero al hambre que usted tiene de mejorar su vida y su bienestar.

Yo constantemente oigo personas diciendo que quieren una mejor vida. Sin embargo, si usted le pregunta qué están haciendo para tener la vida que quieren, ellos dicen “nada”. He dicho una y otra vez, no es suficiente el sólo querer, usted tiene que tener HAMBRE. Entonces, me gustaría preguntarle ahora, ¿qué tanta hambre usted tiene?

¿Qué tanta hambre usted tiene de perder peso? Si usted no está haciendo algo para cambiar su dieta y su estilo de vida, entonces usted no quiere realmente perder peso. ¿Qué tanta hambre usted tiene de cambiar su situación económica? Si usted no está haciendo algo práctico para cambiar su situación económica, entonces usted no quiere realmente cambiarla. ¿Qué tanta hambre usted tiene de hacer sus sueños una realidad? Si usted no está tomando el primer paso para ir hacia donde quiere ir, entonces usted no quiere realmente hacer sus sueños una realidad.

Es necesario enfrentar sus miedos. El miedo es parte de la vida pero esto no lo tiene que detener. Las cosas serán desafiantes pero todo esto es parte de algo más grande. También lo quiero animar a que no compare su primer paso con el primer paso de las demás personas. La razón de esto es porque el camino de la vida de cada persona es diferente. Será diferente no importa qué tan similar el camino de dos personas pueda ser.

He aprendido aceptar el hambre. El hambre crea dolor, por lo tanto, lo animo a que sienta ese dolor. Siéntalo hasta que ese dolor sea más grande que el miedo que pueda sentir. Esto es lo que lo ayudará hacer lo que tenga que hacer para tener la vida que quiere.

Una vez más, y lo digo con todo el corazón, el querer no es suficiente en la vida no importa que es lo que usted quiere. Usted necesita tener hambre. El hambre es necesario porque el hambre lo empuja hacer lo que tiene que hacer para satisfacer ese hambre. No reprima el hambre. Siéntalo hasta que duela seriamente, después haga algo para cambiar la situación.

Si usted quiere las cosas que quiere pero no está seriamente haciendo algo para obtener esas cosas, entonces se  tiene que preguntar qué tanta hambre tiene. La falta de acción indica que usted no tiene hambre. Se requiere el tener hambre para tomar los pasos necesarios para tener la vida y el bienestar que usted quiere. Acepte el hambre hasta que duela y después haga algo para satisfacer ese hambre.

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