The Balance Between Giving

I realize that other people can tremendously give meaning to our life. It does because we are social beings and as social beings, we have a need to love others and be loved. In order to live a much more meaningful life, it is essential to be a giver, not just a taker. When one hears the verb “giving”, it can easily be thought of as giving to others, however, there are two types of giving that I would like to discuss in today’s post.

The two types of giving is the one when you give to others and the second is the one when you give to yourself. It’s the balance between the two the key to having a truly meaningful life.

We are meant to share what we have- share who we are, what we know, how we feel, what we possess, the love we have, etc. Keeping all this to ourselves is not only selfish, it will also leave us feeling empty and this is because at the end of the day, even up to the final hours of our life, it is the relationships that we have and the quality of those relationships what will mean the most to us.

There is a sense of satisfaction and even completeness to a certain degree when we give to others. By sharing, we are leaving a part of ourselves with those people and we’re adding to their life. Sharing gives us a sense of belonging as well. The one thing to keep in mind when sharing with others is that it is important to share the right things with the right people. With this I mean that when you share your most valuable possessions- that being your body, your heart, your mind, your emotions- it is important to share them with people who care about you. The body part refers more to when you are in a romantic relationship. Your heart, mind and emotions go for both romantic partners and friendships. One thing you will learn if you haven’t learned already is that not everyone will be worthy of your most valuable possessions. When you share with those who can’t value these things, this is when it is easy to feel empty inside. It is the sharing them with the right people that will make you feel good and full.

Just as it is equally important to give to others, in order for you to give to others it is a must to first give to yourself. You can’t serve from an empty glass and this also is the same when it comes to you. You can’t give to others when you don’t give to yourself. First be very giving to yourself- share with yourself love, respect, kindness, goodness, the best stuff, the best food, etc. It is in the you giving to yourself that you will have more than enough for others. You will be overflowing with goodness for others. One thing I must add is that if you are giving to others so that others can give to you, that is a BIG mistake. This actual giving will leave you feeling empty because first of all, you are taking from the little that you have to give to others. Second, because we are all energy, people can sense when we give in order to receive. People can sense when we are not loving to ourselves or when we give out of desperateness. So giving to yourself FIRST is a MUST.

Balance between these two types of giving is a must because although there is great satisfaction in giving to others, you can’t truly give to others from the heart if you first don’t give to yourself.

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4 thoughts on “The Balance Between Giving

  1. I think this is especially true for parenting. To give your children the emotional support they need, it helps to be centered yourself. Also parents should not feel guilty for taking the time to rest and exercise because those behaviors will help to give them the energy needed for parenting.

  2. Thanks for always making me smile! It seems we always seem to share in similar ways our messages. You have missed a few of mine, as I have of you. But here is a blessing for the New Year.

    A New Years Blessing

    May the hand of our Lord always guide you
    May His tender love daily anoint your heart
    May the peace of His heaven fill your world
    As this New Year’s breath begins to start

    May His grace in your mind be steadfast
    May the light of His Spirit fill your face
    May you never again feel any loneliness
    As you live daily in His loving embrace

    May your spirit be blessed very abundantly
    Writing and sharing what He bequeath’s to you
    May you strive to inspire and touch another
    In the wonderful way He also does for you

    Be charitable and kind in your daily walk
    Never finding hatred or prejudice within
    Living your life each day in a humble way
    As this new year in your life now begins

    May each step you take this year resemble
    The sharing life our Lord always displayed
    And you will find His spirit blessing you
    As His grace guides your life each new day.

    II Corinthians 5:17
    Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new
    creation, old things have passed away, behold
    all things have become new.

    Hugs and blessings always my sister!

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