What Does “Disastrous Consequences” Mean When It Comes To Unaware Needs?

I would like to touch on a topic which I think a lot of us have been guilty of, including me, that I think is so important to discuss. On yesterday’s post, I wrote about how not being aware of your needs can lead to disastrous consequences but many of you may wonder what is meant by disastrous consequences. Now this phrase “disastrous consequences” can mean different things to different people. What I mean with this phrase is anything that compromises your balance in life and your well-being.

Just like our body shows symptoms when something is out of balance or when it is ill, there are things that we do that we may not be aware of that are “symptoms” of other things that are going on inside of us mentally, emotionally and spiritually. For me, for several years I did mindless shopping and got myself into thousands and thousands of dollars worth of debt, trying to fill a void. This is just one of the many examples of what I consider disastrous consequences. Other examples are overeating, not eating enough, drinking excessively, using drugs, being in abusive relationships, being around toxic people, etc. Of course, this just doesn’t happen overnight. These are behaviors that develop gradually and most of the time we notice them once we find ourselves in trouble, either we notice we owe too much money or we can’t be without a drink of alcohol or we find that we can’t stop eating, etc.

These behaviors become disastrous to your well-being because these are behaviors that turn into a vicious cycle in which it takes time to overcome. It is my belief that when you have a strong sense of who you are and what your needs are, you can make better decisions for yourself. You will understand why you allow yourself into certain situations, you understand why you allow certain people into your life, and why you made the decisions that you made. When you understand who you are, you can then start to align yourself in order to have the things you want out of life.

Everything in life always starts with YOU first. This is why I encourage and say that the best work you will ever do in your life is working on yourself. There is so much power in knowing who you are and what your needs are.

Unaware Needs Can Lead to Disasterous Consequences

I am one to believe that it is normal to have needs. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. As human beings it’s only normal to have a need to love and be loved, a need to be needed, a need for companionship, etc. However, when these needs take over to the point of it overwhelming you and you are unaware of this blinding you into situations that are not healthy for you, these unaware needs can lead to disastrous consequences.

So how can one become aware of these needs before it leads to a point of disastrous consequences? I think a big key is being mindful. This is the first main thing. Being mindful means being present, living the moment you are living. Not thinking about what you need to do next, not worrying about tomorrow. It is living this very moment as is. When you are mindful, you are centered and when you are centered, you are more aware of what you are living at the moment.

Spend some time thinking about what really matters to you. What do you value most? What do you desire out of life? What would your perfect life feel like? Asking yourself these questions will help you understand what your needs are and what you can do about them.

Monitor your thoughts and emotions. Your thoughts and emotions can tell you so much about where you are mentally, emotionally and spiritually in life. If something evokes anger in you, ask yourself why. Emotions are not to be ignored nor are they your enemy. They are your allies to your well-being, believe it or not.

All these things may seem like a lot of work but it is work worth doing. Anything great in life is work and reaching for well-being will be one of the best work you can ever do and part of reaching that well-being that you want is being aware of what your needs are so you have a better understanding of yourself.